There are few four letter words in the English language that bring up such vast emotions as the word love does. For those who are in a nice, fulfilling relationship, it brings up feelings of content. For those who recently broke up, it causes a rush of nostalgia and wanting. And yet, for some, it brings up emotions of resentment, hate, and Inadequacy.
What is it about our nature that makes us want to share ourselves with another person? Though you won’t admit it, you are the most important thing in your life. Yes, you may argue that person x, be that your mother, father, son, daughter, significant other, etc: is the most important person. However, you overlook the fact that there happiness directly effects your happiness. It brings you joy to see them happy. If there happiness didn’t bring you joy, then you wouldn’t care about them.
Seeing as how we are our most treasured item, why do we have to go about finding a soul mate? This directly contradicts our nature of self-preservation. There seems to be some divine irony built into the human psyche that, as independent as we want to be, our happiness and ultimately our spiritual peace depends on finding another to share our life with.
People in relationships always through around the word “soul mate.” While a large people use this word to describe there current crush, there are those who mean what they say. If one takes the time to listen to the accounts of how people met, there can, and will be, a common thread among them. Most people in soul mate relationships have eerie recollections of a series of events unfolding that result in there current status.
These statistical aligning of the stars point to the existence of soul mates. However, if one is going to accept the existence of soul mates, then they must also accept the existence of fate. This is because we define fate as, “Stuff that is meant to happen,” a soul mate as, “The person we are meant to be with.”
Every person is created with there anti-self, so is it too hard to believe that we are created with a soul mate too? Three seems to be a divine number, as countless cultures have sets of 3 embedded in them. For instance, time has three parts (past, present, future), there are three parts to a family (mother, father, kids), the trinity of the Christian Church (Father, Son, Holy Ghost), there are three trimesters in childbirth, and so on. With three being such a divine number, it seems perfectly plausible that we are created in sets of three: self, anti-self, soul-mate. However, this explanation leaves out our soul-mates anti-self, which means that the creation of one person causes the creation of a total of four.
For those still wondering what an anti-self is, I will explain that in full detail some other time. But for now, this is how the argument goes: Every action causes an opposite and equal reaction. Therefore, the creation of us must cause the creation of an opposite self, the anti-self.
Now that one has accepted the possibility that they do have a soul mate, what are the odds that you will ever even meet them? The world is so large, that it is entirely possible that your soul mate lives some where foreign, not even speaking your language. Thus, science says that it is very statistically possible that you will never even meet your soul mate.
But! Remember that if one accepts the existence of there soul mate, then they must also accept the existence of fate. If we are fated with being with our soul mate, then the creation of our soul mate means that we will have a chance of being with them. The sheer definition of soul mate means that you will have a chance of meeting them. It goes without saying that a lot of people miss there soul mates, and end up marrying or being with someone that is not entirely compatible with them.
Of course, this is all if one accepts the existence of soul mates. There is another posible explanation on why people seem the be in love and have soul mates.
First, let’s make up a scale that we can measure compatibility with. This scale can be called, “Percentage of Compatibility.” This scale is a measurement from 0-100, with 0 being completely incompatible, and a 100 being totally compatible. The average person scores a 51, your arch nemesis probably around a 12-37, and your husband/wife (if in a mediocre marriage) a 76-84, and the happily married 85+. A person scoring high on the PoC scale will definitely seem like a soul mate. As a matter of fact, we can create a scale that will show where people rate on the PoC:
0-20 – Totally incompatible, to the point where someone may be killed
21-40 – Bump heads a lot, but can get along if needed
41-60 – Friendly, but argue with a lot
61-80 – Probably will date at some time
81-93 – Causes your head to spin, “Love at first sight”
94+ – Soul Mate
As can be seen with this scale, anyone that is extremely compatible with you will seem like they were created specifically for you. If we take the statistic of 6.5 billion people in the world (taken from the US Census Bureau), evenly split between males and females, then there are 195 million people that are potential soul mates. Please keep in mind that this figure assumes that 1) you are strait and 2) that any person, taken at random, has a 1/100 percentage of hitting any specific spot on the PoC.
With 195 million soul mates, even spread world wide, you are statistically guaranteed to meet at least one of them. With the feelings of meeting a soul mate, someone that is seemingly meant for you, it should be easier to explain love and why it is human nature to seek love.
AFTERTHOUGHTS/NOTES
I really don’t like my PoC. I personally believe that, on the PoC, most people fall in the 40-60 range. Rather then the current PoC, I would rather do the statistics on a logarithmic scale ranging from -10 to 10. This means, that 10 times more people are in the 0-1 range as in the 1-2 range, which has tens times more people then the 2-3 range, etc. This scale would significantly lower the number of soul mates statistically promised to you. However, I also believe that even on this new scale, you are still statistically promised a soul mate that you will meet.
Also, I realize that the opposite and equal reaction of the creation of a person could be the killing of a person. However, like I said, I will go most into the anti-self some other time.
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